Giving Good E-Mail in Six Easy Steps

Giving Good E-Mail in Six Easy Steps

Eric wrote on 2007 October, 10

Are you an online dating e-mail virgin? Well, have no fear! While introductory notes on SexSearch can make or break a night of wild, passionate sex, it doesn’t require a rocket scientist to figure out what works and what doesn’t. We have an easy six-step recipe for cooking up steamy first e-mails to prospective hook-ups.

Read Profile First
To better your chances of hearing back from someone on SexSearch, it’s a good idea to read their profile completely.

This way, you can see for yourself if you’re compatible based on both of your preferences as well as make references to their profile.

Craft A Catchy Subject Line
Question: What’s the most overused subject line ever? Answer: Hi. It’s vital on a site like SexSearch to be original with your

e-mails, especially subject lines. To grab someone’s attention, try to use edgier captions like “Grab Me While You Can,” “Are You My Girl Gone Wild?”  or “Wanna Frisk Me?”

Keep Emails Short And Sweet
Size may matter in the bedroom, and it also matters with introductory e-mails. When it comes to that first note, less is more. Too much information could scare people off, so make sure to keep your notes brief: two or three sentences max!


Use Humor & Innuendos
Writing a note to someone that you wanna screw can be a little, um…awkward. That’s why you can’t go wrong with throwing in some humor into your notes. An example: “I’d love to meet you, but I just want you to know that I don’t shake hands on the first date.” Use humor sparingly, as what you might find funny may not translate well to someone else through e-mail. Another way to hook people in is by using sexual innuendos. An example: “How many licks do you think it’ll take to get to the gooey center of my Tootsie Pop? Wanna find out?”

End With Open-Ended Question
If you want to hear back from someone you’re interested in, a good thing to do is end your note with an open-ended question. It gives the person an incentive to respond back to you, and an opportunity to talk about themself (and who doesn’t love that?). Some sample open-ended questions: “That’s a sexy get-up you’re wearing. Where did you get it?” “You say you love using candle wax. How did you get into that?” and “You look a lot like (a famous celebrity). How many times a day do you get that?”


Never Send Carbon Copy Emails
Cutting and pasting the same email to everyone = very little chance of getting responses back. Any questions?

Feel free to pass along this recipe for great emails to all your friends. Most importantly, have fun with your introductory notes. But remember to always be respectful to other SexSearch members - do not be offensive. If you play your cards right, you could be playing strip poker with someone incredibly hot tonight!

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