Contacting Members

Contacting Members

Eric wrote on 2007 October, 04

Ok, so you’ve finally created that killer profile, posted your best pics, and you’re ready to find some action. The next step is to start contacting other Sexsearch members. But what to say? After all, your introductory email is your one chance to make a first impression - it can easily make or break a potential encounter! We want to make this process easy for you. So here are a few quick tips to help increase your chances of hearing back from other members.

Read Profiles Carefully
It’s important to look at other profiles carefully to see if your tastes and preferences match. There’s no use in writing to someone who’s into threesomes if you’re into 1-on-1s; or if they’re looking for a specific age range, and you don’t fit the range.

Hook ‘Em With An Attention-Grabbing Subject Line
Subject lines are front and center on emails, so writing a catchy headline is essential in getting your email noticed and opened by other members. People on dating sites often get flooded with emails that contain the same generic subject lines like “Hi” or “What’s up?” So instead, how about a subject line with a little more pizzazz like “Hi Gorgeous!” or “What’s Up, Hot Stuff?” Or try even writing something little more risqué like “Guess What I’m Wearing?”

Keep Your Emails Short
An introductory email should be brief and to the point. Think two or three sentences long. When it comes to your first email, less is more  because most people 1.) don’t have the time or patience to read a long-winded note and 2.) lose interest when someone writes too much too soon. Don’t know what to write? How about why you liked someone’s profile and/or why you think they’d like you. And if you can throw some humor and wit into the mix, even better. Just remember that everyone’s on here to have a good time, so don’t be shy - take a chance and write! The end result could surprise you…

Personalize Emails, Don’t Cut-and-Paste
Another way to grab a member’s attention on SexSearch is to personalize your email. Pick out something that you noticed in their profile and make a reference to it. Also, it is not a good idea to cut and paste the same email to other members. People often notice right way, and your email will likely be discarded. 

Be Flirtatious, But Not Offensive
Since this is adult personals, it’s okay to be a little more “flirtatious” with your emails. But don’t mistake flirtatious with downright offensive! All members on SexSearch deserve to be treated with equal respect. Before writing to someone, read their essays to get a feel for their “tone.”


Don’t Send Harassing Emails
If you write to someone on SexSearch and they do not respond, do not retaliate by sending them an offensive and/or harassing email. There are many reasons why people do not respond to emails, and it may have nothing to do with you, so do not take it personally. After all, how could it be personal when the person doesn’t even know you??? And don’t forget the old adage: there’s other fish in the sea.

If you keep these tips in mind when contacting members on SexSearch, it will better your chances of hearing back from people. Don’t be discouraged if you do not get immediate responses! Sometimes it takes a little time to start getting replies from members, especially considering the number of emails that some SexSearch members receive…patience is a must! And remember, if you ever feel too shy to write to someone, you can always start things up by sending them a “Show Interest” alert. We wish you the very best with finding new people to hook-up with on!

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