Safe Hook Ups

Safe Hook Ups

Eric wrote on 2007 October, 04

Hooking up with a new online friend can definitely be thrilling and exciting, but it’s also important to be smart about it.  We want you to have to the best experiences with your new sex buddies. Here are some steps to help make your new encounters safe and memorable ones.

Discuss Hook-Up First
Whether you’re setting up a date online or over the phone, it’s important for both parties to be on the same page. Talk about what you both expect to happen. This will avoid any misunderstandings during your encounter. It could be extremely awkward if you’re meeting with someone and thinking that it’s just the two of you, and they’ve invited another person for a threesome. It’s also of the utmost importance to disclose to one another if either of you have any STDs (remember to always use protection on hook-ups).


Meet in a Public Place
While it’s tempting to get straight to the action, it’s good idea to meet your date at a public place first. This way, you can get a sense of what the other person is like offline. Also, you can make sure the other person really looks like their photos. Do not rely on your hook-up for transportation on the first date. If things don’t work out, you could be screwed. Find a way to get there and back, even if you have to take a bus or have a friend give you a lift. The meeting doesn’t have to be long: just long enough to know that you’d feel safe to be alone with your date. If you meet for drinks, never leave your drink unattended – it could be tampered with. Have an exit plan prepared in the event that the date goes south. If you’re still not sold on the idea of meeting in public first, think of it this way: it could intensify the experience when you finally are able to get your hands on each other in private!


Tell a Friend Where You’re Going
While you may want to keep your hookups private, it’s strongly recommended that you tell at least one friend of your plans…just in case. Always have your cell phone with you, and make sure it’s fully charged.


Disclose Personal Info Sparingly
Be cautious with the personal information you give out to your new online hook-ups.  Give out your actual email address and phone numbers only when you feel comfortable doing so. It’s a very painstaking task to have a phone number changed if you happen to meet someone who won’t leave you alone (you may also want to check into getting caller ID and call blocking, if you don’t already have them). Also be sure to keep your personal belongings with you at all times. The last thing you want is to become a victim of Identity Theft or have to deal with unauthorized credit card charges.


Use Protection
You only have one life - why put it at risk by not using protection and getting an STD? Hook-up as much as you want, but always make sure to always protect yourself. Again, we can’t reiterate enough to talk to your future hook-ups about your sexual histories. It’s the responsibility of both parties to disclose if either person has an STD. And if you’re not sure if you’re clean, go to your doctor or to a clinic and get an STD test.


Trust Your Gut
If there’s something about the date that doesn’t seem right, go with your gut. If you don’t feel comfortable with the other person, or if you fear for your safety, leave immediately. Do not allow your date to pressure you to stay or engage in an activity that you do not feel comfortable doing. It is okay to say no.


Keeping these dating safety tips in mind can help make your future romps safe and pleasant. The most important thing of all to remember with online hook-ups is to use common sense, trust your gut, and protect yourself. Have fun, and be safe!

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